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    Thanks for the kind thoughts guys. The reason I am so reluctant and sad is I actually really like my wife and honestly don't want us to break up. I saw the kids moving away as an opportunity to spend more time together and rekindle our relationship which has become colder and more distant; smothered in the organised chaos of managing three demanding teenagers. Not the kids fault, obviously, but we have just focused too much on their welfare at the expense of our relationship. However, she obviously has been having other ideas.

    Lesson for anyone who has acquired children recently, make an effort to drag your wife away from the kids as much as you can, so you can spend time together, no matter how reluctant she is too leave them. Deposit them with relatives or grandparents for a week and fly off somewhere. She may spend the first couple of days texting and phoning them, but it will be worth it.

    She asked for the separation 18 months ago, took off her wedding ring and moved into the spare bedroom, but I persuaded her to wait until the twins were 18 and had finished their High School exams and were back from various post-exam travels. The time since she asked has been very difficult. I have tried really hard to make her life as easy as possible, doing most of the laundry, shopping and cooking, so she can take up hobbies and "find herself". I still have some hope that she will miss me more than she thinks during the separation. Hoping for the best but planning for the worst.

    Despite the obvious signs, the children seem to have no idea what is up. My apartment becomes available in mid-August and we are planning to tell them then. That is one conversation I am REALLY not looking forward to!

    Also not looking forward to starting all over again - particularly at the age of 60, but trying to remain positive.

    Sorry I have taken the thread so far off topic!

    Back to Squeezeboxes...
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    SqueezeBoxes: A piCorePlayer with two Duets, one no longer in active service.
    Server: Synology DS214 (2TB) NAS running LMS 7.9.1
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    Livingroom: Duet, Linn LP12, Naim 72/Hi-cap/110/Headline amp, B&W CM2 speakers
    Kitchen: piCorePlayer, Tibo powered speakers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chill View Post
    Yep, there's a lot of it about. It shouldn't be a reflection on either of you. Remember the old saying: "Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed."

    Good luck.
    A bit of truth in that, although I think it is more that courting couples are more inclined to ignore or tolerate the annoying parts of their partner's behaviour, and become less tolerant once the rose tinted veil of new love falls away.

    The quote I have in mind is from Richard Bach (author of Jonathan Livingston Seagull)

    “If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were”

    Although I am the one physically leaving, I am setting my wife free.

    A couple of good sources of help for new relationships, before they start to have problems.

    A book, "Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts ", Travis and Aronson. Actually I would say a "must read" for everybody! I cannot recommend it strongly enough, it has changed my behaviour and how I view the world. I wish I had read it 20 years ago (but it wasn't written then!)
    https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/17806626..._H8hkDbQ33YAKP

    Also, any stuff by Alain de Botton, but particularly his lecture at the Sydney Opera House "On Love" - available on YouTube
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-iUHlVazKk

    I haven't managed to persuade Mrs TLM to look at either, which is a shame.

    Sorry, I really will shut up now!
    Last edited by TheLastMan; 2019-07-12 at 05:53.
    Matt
    SqueezeBoxes: A piCorePlayer with two Duets, one no longer in active service.
    Server: Synology DS214 (2TB) NAS running LMS 7.9.1
    Network: TP-Link Archer VR200 router, TP-Link access point
    Livingroom: Duet, Linn LP12, Naim 72/Hi-cap/110/Headline amp, B&W CM2 speakers
    Kitchen: piCorePlayer, Tibo powered speakers.

  3. #23

    Boom to sell

    So I have a Boom to sell. I loved it but not a techie. Wifi in my house where it was was tough. Worked fine by router but lost streams in my bedroom. Bought an Ocean Digital which works great in bedroom - at least does not drop stream. Is Ebay the best place to go?



    Quote Originally Posted by MikeekiM View Post
    Well, I have been hanging on for quite a while now... And I had a LOT invested in the Squeezebox platform...

    But sadly, it was time for me to part with my treasured Squeezeboxes... Truth be told, I decommissioned my Squeezebox setup years ago, and this hardware was just sitting around collecting dust and losing value.

    For those of you who are curious on what I was able to get for my Squeezeboxes in the open market, I will share with you what I was able to cost recover through eBay.

    • SqueezeBox Boom #1 - $100.00
    • SqueezeBox Boom #2 - $100.00
    • SqueezeBox Boom #3 - $85.00
    • SqueezeBox Boom #4 - $102.00
    • SqueezeBox Boom #5 - $90.00
    • Squeezebox Duet (Receiver/Remote Combo) #1 - $160.00
    • SqueezeBox Duet (Receiver/Remote Combo) #2 - $160.00
    • SqueezeBox Receiver (Extra for Duet Setup) - $70.00
    • SqueezeBox Boom Remote (New Spare) - $25.00


    All of the above selling prices are "shipped" prices, so they all need to be reduced to consider eBay Fees (10%), PayPal Fees (2.5%), and shipping. The duets cost me around $14.00 to ship, and the Booms cost me around $20.00 to ship.

    Good luck to everyone... I enjoyed my Squeezebox set-up, but unfortunately, it is just time to move on...

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    TLM,

    my advice: go get a sugar baby and parade her around your ex but pretend like u don't care and that you're surprised it upsets her.

    u can't expect to win her back via pity or sentiment. no one wants to be a member of a club that would have them as a member. work on exclusivity!

    play hardball and enjoy some sweet tart while ur at it.
    Last edited by BJW; 2019-09-12 at 10:51. Reason: more amazing advice
    Using: Win7 64 + LMS 7.9 & Duet & ipads w/the logitech app, and ipeng on an ipod
    http://wiki.slimdevices.com/index.ph..._Artists_logic & http://wiki.slimdevices.com/index.php/Compilations

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